Infertility And Meta

One of the most heart-warming experiences in my practice of Meta is when a woman with infertility problems arrives for a treatment, informing me that she is pregnant. I observe joy and relief instead of disappointment and anxiety. The overwhelming desire to have a baby can consume the life of a couple, creating much stress. This in turn can disturb their relationship and careers, increasing anxiety. The prospect of conceiving a baby is limited under the stress.

 The Meta treatment pays attention to the source of the problem and the practise of the Hand Symbols creates balance and stability. Balance is the key to living in the moment. “Living in the moment releases anxiety and the future becomes a creation” (Robert St John)

Over the years in my Meta practice I have been a catalyst to many women and couples who have decided to go either the natural or IVF routes. The creative outcome is joy of pregnancy or acceptance of infertility. The following article written by Paula, kindly shares her experience with Meta and IVF.

Paula’s story

 "My introduction to Metamorphosis was about 11 or 12 years ago when I heard about it through a friend of mine who had been for a few treatments.  At the time my husband and I had been trying to have a baby and we had just started the usual route of initial tests with our gp, who after a while referred us to a fertility doctor, there was lots of talk of laparoscopy’s and investigations etc etc.  I was terrified.  There was something in the back of my mind which made me feel too anxious about everything.  This was too stressful for me.  Trying to conceive was consuming me.  It was all I thought about.

 After first meeting Margaret I knew that meta was for me.  I was always a person of instinct and do a lot of things by my ‘gut’.  It is just the way I am but I never really probed why I was wired this way.  Why did I unconsciously agree or disagree with things? Margaret and I spoke and still do speak a lot about the unconscious mind and how it effects our thoughts and how it can create stresses and blocks in our physical being.

I continued with my meta and my hand symbols as I found comfort.  I stopped feeling sad for my husband and I and our struggle to have a baby.  After a laparoscopy I was diagnosed with stage 4 endometriosis.  Not a good thing when I was trying to conceive. We were to take the IVF route.

 We embarked on a course of IVF and while it was very difficult not knowing what the outcome would be I did my hand symbols and kept myself in the moment and dealt with each step as it came. My meta treatments and my hand symbols kept me balanced as I went through the medical experiment that is IVF.  Living in the moment I did my injections and inhalers. I did my scans to see how my ovaries were growing. We waited for results we wondered about the outcome. There were days when I felt I did not want to be in this (IVF) moment but with meta got through those days.  I created a balance and creativity. Eventually, I stopped worrying about the doctors and their medical ways.  I had a ‘what will be will be’ attitude. With meta and hand symbols I didn’t worry about the past or the future just concentrated on what was being done.  The outcome was my first pregnancy and my first baby boy.

My second round of IVF a year after Conor was born was not a successful one.  Again my attitude of mind was to carry on and concentrate on the here and now.  My meta treatments and hand symbols created balance and cleared the blocks and stresses. My third round of IVF was a few months after this.  I was pregnant once again, with twins.  We now have three wonderful happy metamosphosis children. 

Meta is part of our busy daily lives.  The children know if they have worries or upsets to do some hand symbols to help themselves.  I give them meta treatments regularly. My hand symbols and meta treatments help me with the pain and cronic fatique of endometriosis.  With meta the preconceived patterns are changing and easing.  I have found that my attitude to life has changed for the better.  As I live in the moment things fall into place."

I very much appreciate your lovely article Paula. It will inspire people in similar circumstances to take responsibility for the imbalance causing their infertility. Paula’s original desire when she first came to Meta was to conceive a baby, now Meta has become the creative way of life for all her family.

Whatever you decide to do about infertility, go the natural route or with IVF, practise Meta and do the Hand Symbols to help you cope with the challenge and be creative with the outcome.

Robert Inspired Creativity

 When I first encountered Robert St John in 1992 and attended his seminars, I was aware I was in the company of a unique creator. Robert’s independent mind, his inner authority and natural energy awakened my mind to his philosophy and practice of Metamorphosis.

It takes time and practise to understand Metamorphosis and as we listened at Robert's seminars in the early 1990's with limited understanding, Robert would say as he looked around at the attendees, “don’t believe a word I say, take it with a pinch of salt, but do Metamorphosis and find out for yourselves, the proof of the pudding is in the eating”.

He encouraged us, his students, to think for ourselves engaging our own observation on the subject saying, “don’t just say what I say but get to know Metamorphosis from your own inner reasoning”.

 In that time of conformity and rules, Robert inspired creativity with Metamorphosis which, un-trains the discipline of the conscious mind and re-educates the unconscious mind. It releases us from the effects of the past and the anxiety of the future and gives us the opportunity to live in the present ‘moment’. I wrote the following poem early this year entitled, ‘Now – The Moment’.

Meta Poem 2014

Now – The moment

 It is the time for living, not enduring

It is the time for creating, not repeating

It is the time for knowing, not believing

It is the time for being, not fearing

This is the time for spontaneity, being, creating

Now – The moment

---

The ’Structure of the Moment Hand Symbol’ below was observed by a student of Metamorphosis in late 2013. Try it for yourselves and feel free to communicate your observations on the Hand Symbol. Many people include this Symbol now in their everyday practise with a very positive response.   

Divorce / Love

Just before Christmas I came into contact with a woman I first met in my practice prior to Christmas 1999, who was then at a low ebb as her husband had left her a couple of weeks earlier. She was so tense she could hardly speak and was worried about her future. She loved her husband but was uneasy with communication. He was outgoing (Efferent pattern) and she was shy and reserved (Afferent pattern) and there was a communication block. The more retreative she became, the more frustrated he became. His frustration with her created more retreat and stress in her, then he moved out.

A neighbour who was overcoming her own difficulties with her practise of Meta, recommended her to give Meta a go. She arrived for her first Meta treatment prior to Christmas’99 and was very lonely and depressed, sad with the idea of a future alone, as she did not have children. I treated her and introduced the Hand Symbols, which I recommended her to practise often. When the women returned for her appointment after Christmas, she seemed more relaxed and talkative saying “ I wish I’d had Meta prior to my husband going”. She was now beginning to live in the ‘moment’ with plans to move house and get on with her life. She was practising Meta very creatively in moments of sadness throughout her day and I thought her to treat herself. She continued to come for treatments once a week for support and became interested in the philosophy, which we discussed at each session. Her positive mental attitude and ability to get going was now replacing her reserved attitude, she was getting on better with her family and colleagues at her work.

Then her husband made contact with her at the end of January 2000, two months after she commenced Meta, to take her out for her birthday. She was feeling relaxed and was keen to go. They discussed their divorce and the sale of their house without confrontation. Her husband was surprised with the change in her and asked for another ‘date’. The date led to a holiday after which the woman’s husband returned. He was aware of her balance and observed her practising the Hand Symbols and she encouraged him to practise the symbols also. She attended my seminars in 2000 and as she grew in confidence with the practice, she began to treat her husband. They have since moved to a new house together and it was a joy to meet her prior to Christmas and observe how calm and creative she has become.

The couple loved each other, but the imbalance of their Afference and Efference had separated them. The balance she created with her everyday practise of Meta activated a positive response in him. Then when both take responsibility, the potential for a loving relationship can be created and maintained.

The happy relaxed woman I met before Christmas 2013 was a great contrast to the sad depressed woman I first met before Christmas 1999.

In my experience in Meta practice, if the motivation for the couple to marry is love and their imbalance of Afference and Efference is separating them, then Meta can bring them together and enrich their lives. However, if the motivation for marriage is anything other then love, then Meta can prompt an honest separation with much relief for the couple involved. Divorce is stressful for children and I encourage the parents to practice Meta with their children.

Autism and Downs syndrome

Metamorphosis is wonderful for Autistic, Downs Syndrome and children and adults with special needs. Robert St John used to say that the earlier you begin to treat the child, from birth to age five, the better the progress towards stability of mind. However, the age and severity of the condition is not important, if there is an open mind and a desire to help the child to create its own stability and independence. Meta helps the parents to cope and create their own balance and in my experience they naturally become excellent catalysts. In my practice, as I treat the child and teach the parents Metamorphosis I have seen the joy they experience in observing the “moments of awakening” in the recovery of the child’s stability of mind.

 It is only a block or a “hold in time” that is in the way of the child with special needs. The Autistic is the extreme of Afference  (a pulling back or withdrawal pattern) which under identifies or retreats in life. The Downs Syndrome is the extreme of Efference (a pushing forward pattern) which over identifies in life. (Refer to The Principle of Metamorphosis). Meta creates the balance of Afference and Efference and in time can release the child from the “hold in time” to the awakening of life in the present “moment”. The attitude of the child changes and there is the potential of a road towards independence and creativity. The birthright of the child is to be free of the block and Metamorphosis provides that opportunity.

In my experience of introducing children with special needs and their parents to Meta over the years I have seen remarkable progress and observed the inner calm and stability in the children and parents who practice Metamorphosis. As the parent releases the fear for the future of the child, he/she can get involved in helping the child to create its independence. This attention and love creates security and balance and the gift of life in the‘moment’.

The mother of a five-year-old Downs Syndrome boy (extremely Efferently orientated) worried that her son who was diagnosed with severe Downs might never have independence in life. He began to have regular Meta treatments and was independent enough to take the bus to his special needs school by the age of nine. I treated them both regularly until the mother felt confident in becoming her son’s catalyst. Since commencing Meta the boy experienced much less physical symptoms. In the past he suffered from constant sinus and chest congestion, his appearance improved greatly as his tongue relaxed in his mouth. The awareness and sensitivity of his Afferent balance is giving him focus and creativity in music and art in his teenage years. His mother said that he is the most content of all her children and is a joy to his family and friends.

Another positive experience I have observed was when both parents of an extremely Afferently orientated girl (autistic pattern) became interested in Metamorphosis when the little girl was aged two. She was very withdrawn with no eye contact, curled in the foetal position on her mother’s lap. I introduced them to the practice and they attended with their daughter regularly for treatments, continuing the practice at home with her and all their family. I remember one day when they arrived for Meta treatment and the little girl decided to go for a walk with her dad while her mum had a treatment. This was the first time she left her mother’s side at the age of three. As we both watched them walk down the path, the mother shed a tear of joy saying, “I am going to be free”. Gradually the girl began to come out of her shell and at the age of five she started attending her local school along with her cousins. She did not speak and did not interact with the children in her class for all of the first year. However, the teacher was understanding and was pleased the girl was paying attention and learning in class.

She had the same teacher in senior infants and on the first day back in school after her summer break she told her about her holiday in Spain. It was the first time the teacher had heard her speak, and the girl’s mother observed the communication at the classroom door, with delight. She began to interact more with the children in the classroom and gradually in the playground. Her good progress continued over the years, she now gives her mother Meta head treatments and reminds the family to do the Hand Symbols when she observes any disturbance. When she celebrated her eleventh birthday, her mum asked her what she would like to do on her special day. “I would like to have a birthday treatment with Margaret”. On her birthday, I could see the wonderful progress she has made since I first met her when she was just two years old. She communicates with natural eye contact, expresses how much she enjoys maths and art at school, is independent minded in her views and has a gentle inner authority. Recently the girl arrived home from school with a cheeky grin on her face saying to her mum, “I got into trouble with my friends today in school”. She is aware of her progress and joining in the fun.  That young girl is one of many children I have observed create a stability of mind with the Meta support of their families.

Robert St John’s book "Prenatal Therapy and the Retarded Child" describes a delay in progress in the child, (Retarded meaning delayed or held back) which covers many conditions from Autism, Downs Syndrome, ADD and Dyslexia etc. I recommend this early publication of Robert’s work to parents who wish to know the basics of Meta so that they can get on with the Meta practice with their children. This book can be ordered here on line www.metamorphosis-rsj.com

Jake’s premature birth

On the first of June 2012 baby Jake was born three months prior to his due date, which was to be the first of September.

At 2am on that Friday morning as my husband and myself lay sleeping in our holiday hotel in Portugal, my mobile rang. It was my daughter calling us from St Thomas’s Hospital in London. She was in distress as her waters had broken and the doctor’s expressed concern that the baby had a very slim chance of survival. He was growth restricted due to limited placenta function and was only twenty-six weeks gestation. A caesarean section would be necessary and the consultants were reluctant to do such major surgery because of the small size of the baby, which was now showing signs of distress.

When my mobile rang I sat up in bed as my daughter cried, “Mum, I want to have my baby”. My heart sank for my beautiful daughter who had rested on her couch for two months following a bleed at eighteen weeks to give her baby the best chance for life. She did the Creation 2 Hand Symbol over the baby bump as well as treating the baby directly by placing her hand on the bump every day while resting. I had practiced midwifery in my younger life and could see it from the medical point of view as the doctor’s and midwives observed the distress in the baby’s heart monitor. However, I was now living life from the Meta point of view, which is living in the ‘moment’. Metamorphosis enables us to be creative rather then fearful in stressful situations. I suggested to my daughter to ask the medical people to leave the room to give her and her husband time to do Meta and the Creation Hand Symbols, to create calm and balance and release the fear.

Needless to say, my husband and myself did the Symbols as we awaited a call back. Just about twenty minutes later my daughter rang and informed us that the heart beat was stronger. The Creation Hand Symbols had helped her with the fear and anxiety and she sounded at ease and more positive. The caesarean section was scheduled for later that day. My daughter did the Creation Hand Symbol all through the caesarean section. There was a big team in the theatre for the delivery and to the surprise of all attending, little baby Jake was delivered 600 grams (1lb 3oz), he was strong and determined and the ventilator was removed after just twenty minutes.

There is no doubt that the love and Metamorphosis support that Jake got from his loving parents while he was in the womb and prior to his delivery resulted in his successful caesarean section birth. The great care and dedication by the medical staff supported his physical life. He had many challenges in the first weeks of his life, including abdominal surgery, which the surgeon said that one in five babies die. Due to an infection, which caused the wound to breakdown, Jake had a second surgery ten days after the first one and recovered well.  Finally, a couple of weeks prior to his discharge on the seventh of November 2012 he had a third reversal surgery and has been strong and healthy at home ever since.  

The constant Metamorphosis treatments by his parents and family enabled this tiny being to have the strength to go on as a happy and thriving boy, giving us all the joy we now experience in his company.

I have had the privilege to treat many pregnant women in my practice over the years and have seen the sense of calm and well being they experience during their pregnancy and childbirth. My daughter advised me to suggest to all pregnant women who practice Metamorphosis to do the Creation 2 Hand symbol and do direct treatment on the bump regularly during pregnancy. By being in the ‘moment’ you can have a creative outcome to the most difficult and traumatic experiences.